Here are some some struggles that I faced when dealing with people:
1. You are expected to behave like a good boyI remember when I was a kid at school, my teacher said something about how she met two pastor's kids who were very well behaved, and that they are the only ones they saw that amazed them. The Perfect Role Model, or The Perfect Pastor's Kids. Like HELLOOOOO, I'm in front of you, the perfect pk..jk
At that time, I think that it was inplanted in my brain that "I need to change. I need to be more like a good boy, to be a very good role model."
2. You are expected to be spiritually maturePeople expect you to be very good at prayer, and also memorize lots of verses. They expect you to not fight back, or not be angry. (So I think it is because of this I never got into a fistfight..whew, thank God)
3. You are expected to serve or to giveJust because my dad is in the ministry, people expected me to be in the ministry. Sometimes, people give me a "judgement" type of look when they find out I am not the song leader in our church. Well that was during my teens, but still it haunted me to think "am I really saved If I am not serving in the church?" and etc.
The thing is, WE (not just pks) Christians have our own convictions, our own calling and own skills and talents that we can offer to God. So to Christians out there struggling with expectations of you to serve in the ministry, don't mind them. Find your own talent that you could offer, do not let the people move you in a way that you are serving God forcefully.
4. You are expected to be holy
People expect you to have a high standard for clothing or for you to listen to very holy and angelic music. And being a teenager, I was hooked into metal music, but then I saw this one lady from church borrowed my mp3 player who gave me "the dirty look".. "the criticizing look." I know I am wrong into liking this stuff, but still the judgement I took was awful.
We all have our own challenges, be it a strive for holiness, or spiritual maturity.
5. You are expected to be perfect
Perfect in the eyes of men, and when people see that you are not what they expect to be, THEY get disappointed. The thing is, WHY ARE THEY DISAPPOINTED? It is not their life. I am not their child, or sibling.
One mistake seems to be a big mistake that would affect their life. Maybe it is from their understanding that PK's are role models. And when we make mistakes, their child may think "oh, that pk made a mistake and it seems like it was ok, so let me do it" and maybe they are afraid of that kind of scenario. That is true, but we still make mistakes. We still do sin.
With all these false expectations, I think there was a phase in my teen years where I learned how to put on a mask, to maybe satisfy all these false expectations. This is very dangerous to all Christians, where they put on a mask and faking their Christianity to show that "I'm changed" or "I'm a Christian now because I do all these good things." And who is to blame for that? FELLOW CHRISTIANs WHO PLACE FALSE EXPECTATIONS ON FELLOW CHRISTIANS. We are expected to be spiritually mature, while not realizing that we have our own struggles. Then I learned to let go and just be myself. By God's transforming Grace, I learned to correct my wrongdoings. I learned to live for God and not for men.
Though I have faced them, I can say I SURVIVED! Now I'm old (not that old >.< just 21), I now know how to deal with criticisms (naah, I just ignore them :3 ). And even if they are bad experiences, I can say that these experiences molded me into what I am today. Who knows, without them, I may not love God, or trust in Him.